Transitional Coaching
Who We Are
"After all, we're all just walking each other home" - Ramm Das
Death and life are inseparable. One is part of another, together they are whole. The first and the final chapter of the very same book.
Death and dying are scary thoughts. We ignore them as if by doing so we are immune to it.
Yet, as we are not immortal we should cater for the end with the same care as we do for any other chapter. A good death is the triumph of a great life.
Death is a moment, dying is a process. While dying you are living. Make the most of it, leave a legacy beyond the memories. Reach the peace that a good death deserves. Give your existence the meaning that you want. Allow some control... To what is uncontrollable.
Time is a commodity, the only limited one... Use it to the fullest.
"Dying on your own terms, this is the greatest gift anyone can bestow upon a mortal man." - Mario Stinger
MEET GUIDO
From Mediterranean origin, Guido lived the first part of his life searching for an identity in the business world. Once he received the “gift” of Multiple Sclerosis that eventually confined him to a wheelchair, there was a shift.
An amazing heart imprisoned to a dysfunctional body, a sharp mind trained to observe things in innovative and unique ways. His unconditional love based on non-judgement and compassion is tangible when he is in the room. With his vast life experiences and the many different roles he played in the movies of life, Guido’s unique approach to emotions and feelings gives him the ability to bring peace to anyone. His spirituality not bound to a specific religion fits in with any client and their belief.
As an internationally known life coach, Guido found part of his purpose to be a humble witness to a client’s transition. Playing a role of support and guidance in the most difficult and insightful part of the journey.
WHAT
Part of the avoidance comes from the fear of leaving behind an incomplete movie. Where the actor disappear before the grand finale. Being part of the plan, play a part until the end, gives meaning, purpose alleviates the inevitable hurt and promotes peace.
We cannot prevent death nor extend your life. What we can do is to enrich the last part of the journey. Exploring the meaning of your life. Reaching peace by washing the guilt and shame. The hurt comes from leaving your loved ones behind.
You may not be physically there but, leaving a living legacy will help fill the void, easing the pain. In death there are no options, in dying there are.
Exploring the options available to relieve your family from the responsibility of making difficult decisions in difficult moments which the alternatives often lead to second guessing their decisions for years to come.
WHY
Facing death bring the privilege of truth. To many times we have left words unspoken. The fear of hurting others, of not being heard, or simply the panic of loosing their love.
When a potentially fatal condition is diagnosed, we have the need to release the burden. Doing so with your family may lead to overload the burden making these moments more unbearable and greatly misunderstood. In dying or potentially dying, there is a level of intimacy where truth and love meet.
You will find true freedom in accepting the apologies you never received. In releasing offence that were never meant to be hurtful. In cleaning the lenses that are our perceptions, leaving us with a compassionate smile.
WHEN
Life itself is a fatal condition. Being diagnosed with a potentially fatal condition is the narrowing down to a possible date of transition.
Learning how to assist people who are dying, has taught me a lot on how to live. Whether there is hope or not in your medical condition, working together surely transcends the outlook of life. If your days have a number or not, building a legacy is writing your future.
WALKING TOGETHER
Life Review
Death is just the completion of a life. The episode. In approaching the time reviewing the many episodes lived gives a meaning to the series. Helps complete the ones we left unfinished or finding closure in the ones where the end felt incomplete.
Reviewing our life leaves a feeling of nostalgic freedom that turns into peace. Realising that we did live up to the values we carried. That our failures were after all just a natural consequence of something we didn't have to make an accurate choice. That we are all beautiful humans, imperfectly humans.
Legacy Work
Death leaves a terrible emptiness around the ones who have lost you. Our life had a meaning. Our meaning. What we stood for, we loved, we were known for. Leaving a well constructed legacy, will fill some of the void left from your absence. Will fill some of that space. Will ensure that the time that will pass by won't dissipate what you lived for.
Advanced Directives
When life takes a turn for the worst, is when the questions are impossible to answer in certainty. We live on our terms, let us die or survive on our terms too. Ensuring that medical professionals know what and how to treat you if you are unconscious or not able to speak for yourself. On one hand it gives you the peace of choosing for your own self, on other relief your loved one of a decision that potentially would leave the questioning their choices long after you are gone.